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Ramadan 1440 AH/2019: Love In Islam, By Murtadha Gusau
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Ramadan 1440 AH/2019: Love In Islam, By Murtadha Gusau


 


Premium Times May 28, 2019 Ramadan 1440 AH/2019: Love In Islam, By Murtadha Gusau2019-05-28T20:53:55+00:00 Columns, Opinion Comment

Tuesday, Ramadan 23, 1440 AH (May 28, 2019)

In The Name of Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful

All praise is due to Allah, Lord of all creation. May Allah extol the mention of the Prophet in the highest company of Angels and may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, his family, his Companions and all those who follow him exactly till the Day of Judgement.

Dear brothers and sisters! Know that love is a great feeling. It is the emotion that makes the world go round. It is the feeling that makes many people suffer and rejoice. It is a feeling that makes us laugh and cry at the same time. Love is everything. It is the only emotion that can soften a hardened heart. Love can make enemies friends and friends enemies. Love can prevent wars. Love can start wars. Love can make us do crazy things. But what exactly is love?

My respected people! Philosophers will never give you a simple answer. They will say love is a commitment and choice to be by someone and create a future together. Physicists will say its the exchange of chemicals; maybe the exchange of electrons. An Anthropologist will say love is the agreement to support each other for survival. A lustful person will define love as sex and the release of chemicals. A nun will say love is devotion and caring for others more than self. Everyone has a different definition of love according to their expression of love. But the true definition of “Marital Love” is only understood by true lovers who have been together for a long time, having withstood the trials of life.

That brings us to the real question. What is real love? In my definition, real love is when you plan to have a future with someone you enjoy being around with. You accept them for what and who they are now. You want to give your heart to them and let them nurture it. You trust them with everything. No secret exists between the two of you. You share your insecurities and aspirations, and help each other in areas that you need help with. Real love is not perfect, but real love is perfectly expressed by action. Real love is when someone repeatedly reminds you of Allah and guides you to Him. Real love is to guide each other to paradise and spend eternity together. Real love is Allah, and only His true believers can express it and understand it.

In its purest form, real love is unconditional. When the reasons for love and the reward are not present, the loving heart is always present. A loving heart will love you because it comes from within, and its based on the heart of the loved, not their outer appearance. Real love is sacrificing ourselves for the benefit of others. Real love is wanting and choosing to stay by and support our loved one when they give us every reason to leave. Real love is worth fighting for and only true lovers will fight for it. Real love results in marriage, as our beloved Prophet Muhammad said:

   


“There is nothing better for two people who love each other than marriage.”

People look for love in physical and material concepts but not its real place, the soul. The soul is the engine of life. It is our everlasting wavelength. It enables us to have hopes and dreams. It enables us to live. We should therefore take care of our soul and feed it with life when the physical body wants different things to indulge in. We should be careful and not love the one who does not love Allah. Because if they can reject the pure love of Allah, His mercy and blessings, they will surely reject us.

Respected servants of Allah! In summary, love is earned. Love is struggle. Love is steadfast. Love is reliance on Allah. Love is not obsessive. Love is intimate. Love is true sacrifice. Love does not corrupt. Love is purity. Love is fair. Love is difficult. Love is addictive. Real love is not replaceable. Real love does not decay. Real love is eternal. Real love results in marriage, and completion of half of our religion.

The Bliss and Bumps of Marriage

Dear brothers and sisters! Let me ask, please is marriage a bed of roses? That would depend I would say, because a bed of roses is very beautiful to look at and admire, but it takes a tremendous amount of hard work and patience to cultivate the perfect bed of roses.

In the same way a happy marriage will not just happen, you have to make it happen, you have to work at a marriage day in and day out, that’s why its called a “Labour of love.” Marriage is all about what we bring into it. The baggage that we carry as well as our character, how we conduct ourselves, our modesty and chastity also plays a role.

Common Problems Faced By Couples

The major problem within a marriage is that we depend on the other person for our happiness. We need to set the tone – the mood – we need to create an inner peace and this is what will give us happiness. We want and we expect the other person to validate us, to give us our self worth and to make us eternally happy. This goes for both parties, and when this doesn’t happen then they start blaming each other. They feel that their physical and emotional needs are not fulfilled. Once they start blaming each other they start looking outside the marriage for fulfillment. But the answer to this problem does not lie outside the marriage, it lies in what happens before the marriage and it lies within it.

Solution To This Problem


It lies in learning to love and understand the person you are married to. To be affectionate and attentive to the other persons needs and moods spoken and unspoken. Also to respect the other persons boundaries and sensitivities. Develop ourselves spiritually so that we have “itminan” (contentment) within ourselves.

What Are the Ingredients For A Good Marriage

•Piety •commitment •patience •effort •wisdom. These are the ingredients for a happy and successful marriage. These are the factors which can turn the marriage into a blissful rose garden!

Turn To Allah To Fix Your Marriage

Know that even the best marriage is not free from problems. So do not panic when problems arise in your marriage. Always be positive and seek Allah’s guidance. He alone can fix things for you, but you must strive hard to fix your marriage.

Wassalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullah wa bara ka tuhu.

And all praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds. May the peace, blessings and salutations of Allah be upon our noble Messenger, Muhammad, and upon his family, his Companions and his true followers.

Written by your brother, Imam Murtadha Muhammad Gusau, from Okene, Kogi State, Nigeria. He can be reached via: [email protected] or +2348038289761.

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