Marriage Tips

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June 09, 2018, 03:57:24 AM by Isaac Adeniran

by Maryam Habu shinga

This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home.

 Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem.

 You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one.

clip The wife put up a good representation for her husband.
May 16, 2018, 08:12:08 PM by Isaac Adeniran

The wife put up a good representation for her husband.

This is a rather long story, but I think reading it is worth it.


By Kay Lord

Renato Oil and Gas is a multinational oil company in Nigeria. It is also operating in over 10 other countries across Europe, the Middle East and the Americas with their global  headquarters in Kohln, Germany.

This oil company has been operating in Nigeria for 25 years with German expatriates as MD/CEO for thesame number of years. Recently, the current MD, who's the third since Renato started operations in Nigeria  sent in a notice of retirement letter to the Board at their global headquarters in Germany.

The Board, after deliberation decided that after 25 years of operation in Nigeria, they've been able to grow and train people capable and equiped enough to take charge of the Nigerian operations, hence it was decided that a Nigerian amongst the top Executive Directors of the company in Nigeria should henceforth be appointed to preside over the affairs of the Nigerian subsidiary as MD/CEO.
May 08, 2018, 04:18:42 AM by abejoye

Most Men do hurt their Wives in the name of correcting them. They speak harshly, they are so rash in their approach and can be very brutal.

Lots of women are living their lives in bitterness and anger due to the careless ways their husbands have been talking to them over time.

Here you will be able to know the right ways to talk to your wife without hurting her:

*1) LOWER YOUR VOICE:* Don’t shout at her, she is not your housemaid, she is not a Child. You can correct, yes, but why shouting?

*2) DO IT IN LOVE:* Correction should be done in love if done in any other way it turns to criticism and condemnation.

*3) DON’T CRITICIZE:* Stop criticizing her, rather correct in love. Most will say it’s constructive criticism, true? It means disapproval by pointing out errors and mistakes.

Correction is the act of offering better options to mistakes.

Correction and criticism are never the same.

Husband A says: what manner of food is this? is this popcorn or fried Rice? how I wish I marry a more sensible wife, with better home training, who can cook better.

Husband B says: Sweetheart this rice is too salty and dry unlike the one you did yesterday. I think salt should be reduce any other time because of our health.

Husband A criticized, Husband B, corrected his wife in love. Stop criticizing your wife.

*4) PRAISE HER FOR WHAT IS RIGHT* : It will be wrong to correct when it’s not well done when you don’t praise when it’s well done. Form the habit of praising and appreciating your wife for good deeds.

Avoid correcting your wife in the presence of your Children.

 Incessant correction of your wife before your Children will make them disrespect her.

*6) DON’T CORRECT HER IN THE PUBLIC* : Avoid correcting your wife in the public, it does not show you as a gentleman, and will affect her self-esteem.
clip 10 major things that crash marriages
May 04, 2018, 05:39:41 PM by Isaac Adeniran
10 major things that crash marriages

There are few things that can compare with the ecstatic feeling of being in love. In fact, that feeling gets to the peak when it snowballs into an affair. And of course, marriage seems like the icing on the cake for such persons.

But sometimes, beyond the initial excitement, happy marriages soon run into troubled waters due to the actions and inactions of one of both partners. In some cases, they make up and move on; at other times, the relationship is never the same again and they both have to endure the marriage for the rest of time, while in some instances, it leads to divorce.

Notably, crash in this case does not only imply divorce, but also includes partial breakdown in communication and intimacy.

Therefore, it is somewhat helpful to highlight the top (not exhaustive) factors that lead to conflict in marriages necessarily:

10 major things that crash marriages
April 18, 2018, 01:27:39 AM by Isaac Adeniran
(Dr. Olukoya)
Many years ago, I used to interpret the saying "Marriage is not for small boys" to mean small boys in terms of age, until I visited a female mentor that has been in marriage for 47 years.

I asked, so what is the secret of your over 47 years in marriage?
Beaming, she retorted; My son, the expectations you bring into marriage will either spell its doom or success. I married my husband without expectations of enjoying his money or buying cars for me, but with time, my patience, hard work and God-fearing attitude yielded results of getting cars, houses, taking care of our children and all that.

xx A recommended therapy for all couples and singles
March 16, 2018, 06:44:56 AM by Isaac Adeniran

He was having his evening beverage

That's when she joined him.

"Hi there handsome, you're looking good. So fine I can eat you up" she said sitting down.

"I thought we agreed to keep away from each other? I am a married man" he told her.

" Come on. I won't bite. You can't resist me, no man can" she said.

"I am a married man" he told her.

"Fight all you want, but soon I will have you. I am way better than your wife" she told him.

"You are nothing compared to my wife" he told her off.

"Really? All this body. All these curves. All these sweetness. I bet your wife is not as good in bed as I am" she told him unbuttoning the top button of her blouse to reveal her cleavage, then lifting up her skirt, just a bit.

"If I was a lustful and unfaithful man, all that would move me. But I am too grown to be enticed by what you're showing off. I am a grown man, you think all that consumes my mind is sex? And for your information, my wife is actually great in bed" he told her.

"How will you know unless you do me. Try me tonight. Let's drive in your black car to a romantic hotel, I promise you a night you will never forget" she told him.

"You know what you are? You are lazy? A lazy woman" he told her, then took a sip of his beverage.

"How dare you call me lazy?! I am a high flying educated woman. Any man would give anything to have me" she said.

"Fair enough. But would you give anything to make a man?" He asked.

"What do you mean?" She questioned.

"You look at me and find me attractive. Yet you disrespect the woman behind who I am, you want me to cheat on my wife, the woman behind my attractiveness" said he.

xx Why you should take risk to protect your spouse
February 26, 2018, 07:04:34 AM by Isaac Adeniran

He came back from a meeting that fateful day and informed his wife that the next meeting of Good Brothers London branch will be in their house, as it was now his turn to host them. He added that the people have demanded to eat special Ofe Onugbu for entertainment.

On the day of the meeting, she went to Nigerian market to purchase the items to make the Onugbu Soup for the guest who are well respected personalities, highly placed individuals with profound integrity.

She entered the kitchen and started making the food, while the husband went out to get other important items for the meeting. Lo and behold, the people have started arriving.

 Just as they have settled down and waiting for entertainment, the wife whispered to the husband who just arrived and was saluting the people's with great excitements with handshake in turns telling them that the food was ready........

Wooow!! He was so excited the more... As the custom demands that food should be presented before everything thing.

The husband then accompanied her to the kitchen, decided to taste the soup before hand.

It happened that this woman just got the Onugbu (bitter leaf) straight from the market without knowing that onugbu must be boiled and squeezed out part of the bitterness very well before putting into the soup. She just sliced them like that and put them directly into the soup. The husband became dumbfounded, not knowing what to do!!

Suddenly, a thought crept to his mind, though he didn't disclose nor say anything to the wife who was believing the cooked soup to be the best, and to her, that's indeed it going to be *"a delicious bitter leaf".*

He said, honey, please could you take up the fufu pot to the dining for the visitors while I assist you to carry the soup pot?

She accepted.

Just as they were approaching the center table, *he intentionally double crossed his legs, and fell down fatally, and the whole soup poured out and wasted to the ground.* The people started shouting:  sorry, sorry sorry oh my God, oh my God. Hope you're OK, no injury, etc,  this delicious soup wasted. Oh nooh. Sorry sir.. And helping him to stand up... Eventually, the people ended up taking only the drinks alone and left with joy and showing pity for the man.

However, the wife was very angry shouting at him, you are just a devil, who came to ruin my happiness, look how honoured I could have been before this people, you just wasted my soup. This wicked man.

The man didn't answer nor respond anything to her wife. But was very happy that the wife integrity and respect was wittily, handsomely and smartly rescued. The woman continued to Abuse the husband with razor blade mouth.

Later in the night while they have slept and woke up, the husband quietly said to the wife, *darling, do you really know what happened yesterday, I intentionally poured out that Soup to protect your integrity. The soup could have brought a big Shame to them. And told her the soup was very bitter and no one could have eaten such a bitter Soup. Probably you forgot to wash out the bitter leaf properly before putting it into the soup

There she fell down and started crying and begging the husband for forgiveness... And, the Love for the husband increased the more.


1. Take all possible risk to protect your spouse, you're his or her shield.

2. Women, not all your men action is against your happiness.

3. Men, don't talk back at your angry Wife, her ears are always at her back whenever she is so provoked.

4. Wise men talk quietly and reply to issues when the situation is calm.

May God bless our home!
xx If you marry the right person, you experience this
January 26, 2018, 02:41:56 AM by Isaac Adeniran
If you marry the right person, everyday is Valentine's Day.

Marry the wrong person, everyday is Martyrs Day.
Marry a lazy person, everyday is Labour Day.
Marry a rich person everyday is New Year's Day

Marry an immature person, everyday would seem like Children's Day.

Marry a cheater or liar, everyday will become April Fool's Day.

And if you don't get married, everyday is Independance Day!

Marriage is the only school where you get the Certificate before you start.

It's also a school where you will never graduate.

It's a school without a break or a free period.

It's a school where no one is allowed to drop out.

It's a school you will have to attend every day of your life.

It's a school where there is no sick leave or holidays.

It's a school founded by God:

1.On the foundation of love.

2.The walls are made out of trust.

3.The door made out of acceptance.

4.The windows made out of understanding

5.The furniture made out of blessings

6.The roof made out of faith.

Be reminded that you are just a student not the principal.

God is the only Principal.

Even in times of storms, don't be unwise and run outside.

Keep in mind that, this school is the safest place to be.

Never go to sleep before completing your
assignments for the day.

Never forget the C-word...Communicate.

Communicate with your classmate and with the Principal.

If you find out something in your classmate (spouse) that you do not appreciate,

Remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate,

God is not finished with him/her yet.

So take it as a challenge and work on it together.

Do not forget to study the Holy Book (the main textbook of this school).

Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it the same way.

Sometimes you will feel like not attending classes, yet you have to.

When tempted to quit find courage and continue.

Some tests and exams may be tough but remember,

the Principal knows how much you can bear and yet

it's a school better than any other.

It's one of the best schools on earth;

joy, peace and happiness accompany each lesson of the day.

Different subjects are offered in this school, yet love is the major subject.

After all the years of theorizing about it, now you have a chance to practice it.

To be loved is a good thing, but to love is the greatest privilege of them all.

Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse.
More grace from God.

Send this to all your married friends to encourage them,  and to your unmarried friends to counsel and educate them.
January 16, 2018, 06:37:58 AM by Isaac Adeniran

Be patient while you read this…
If you are a young and ambitious dude still
struggling to get to the top,
this write-up will save you the stress and pains
of the so-called love we
have been deceived about for long!
If you still think that there’s what is called ‘true
love’ or ‘love without
money or resources’, then you must be living in
a fool’s paradise!!!
(Quote me if you like!)
The truth of the matter is that what people in the
past enjoyed as ‘true
love’ no longer exist. Then it was possible for a
man and a woman to fall
in love based on personal qualities or characters
without materialism
attached to it! Those were the good old days!
Our society has changed and
any one who still lives in the past is not better
than the village !!!
I have heard people saying often times that love
or relationship is not all
about money! To me, that’s the highest level of
trash and rubbish! If you
are a young man with ambition, still striving and
toiling to make it, you
better forget about love and concentrate full-
time…I mean 100% on your
dreams and life.
It is so frustrating to see some struggling dudes
killing themselves over love
issues! What a life! Why spend the meagre salary
you earn after working
for 30 days like a donkey on a girl? She tells you
she needs a phone, you
struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for
hair, you struggle to give
her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or
pair of shoes she saw at
a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest
assured that you will
continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you
don’t desist from such
shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know
the extent to which
materialism has eaten into this so-called love,
watch even the younger girls
of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will
quickly run away from
you if you can’t be giving her upkeep money,
money for hair and phone,
If you don’t live comfortably well, sorry, you are
on your own!!! Except
for those village girls that are not exposed…but
seriously, not in the cities
of Nigeria.
Before you criticize me on the fact that these
women need to live a
comfortable life by hanging out with only
comfortable dudes, read the topic
again! It is surely the same reason why I said
young struggling men
should forget about love and focus on their
lives!!! When you are
comfortable, you can have the resources to
sustain your relationship because
no matter how a woman ‘loves’ you, the ‘love’
must surely die if there’s no
finance to sustain it!
xx Why a woman should not dance in some overrated ego
January 06, 2018, 11:31:39 AM by naijatowns
I am 32 years old. Me and my ex hubby dated for six years, I started dating him whilst I was in grade 12, I was 19 years old. We were best of friends, I waited until he completed college and started work, my family and his family then met, we got married and had a son. (7 years old now).

My husband was short tempered at times, but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he can’t control me. Every time we argue, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain. My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he is controlling me I would always dare him that if you wish divorce me- I never wanted divorce, I just had pride and I never wanted to look a lose in his eyes.

One day I pushed him so had that for the first time he beat me and lock me out side, I went to my family, my family took him to police, every time I looked like I am being abused! But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally.

He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to withdraw the case, I felt that what I was doing is wrong.
My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall. Of which he openly knelt down and apologized. I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled.
After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue, and he remained alone. After two days I received a call that he is in hospital, my family told me that I shouldn’t go there because it will look like am begging him, and my sisters believed he is faking the illness.

All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the one being abused. He spent a week in hospital, after he came out, I just received a divorce summon. I wanted to say no to divorce, but because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me, I called him and say he will get the divorce because I live like am in hell.

When we went to court, I wanted to make him pay, so I told the court that I needed his properties to be shared. To my surprise he openly told the court that whatever he and me acquired together should be given to me, all he wanted was divorce.

We got divorced in 2009 July. Now, this Saturday my husband is getting married again, whilst I am here wasted! My family are gossiping about me, I depend on what my ex gives to my son for survival. I know I wasted my marriage. I am here telling all wives to be careful how you get advise. Don’t be cheated. Even my young sisters are much more respected than me. Those who encouraged me to divorce are always bad mouthing me.
There is no benefit in pride!

This a perfect example and advise for those dancing in some overrated ego. Share it with your friends.

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