Love, Relationship and marriage

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clip MARRIAGE SHOULD NOT BE A PARASITIC RELATIONSHIP
February 14, 2019, 08:52:30 AM by Pentho
MARRIAGE SHOULD NOT BE A PARASITIC RELATIONSHIP

Most people depends on their spouse spirituality most times. They always want to be the lucky one to have that prayerful man /woman or that bible scholar, where as, they are liability and they always want to be at the receiving end. They don't give at all or they give little, you have to drag them along in the journey and at the end, you too gets tired of the journey or they suck you till you die and this explains a parasitic relationship.



 Hey dear! Work on yourself, stop looking for a fire filled spouse when you are fireless. The two of you should be lucky having each other and not a relationship when one is pained /suffers loss and the other gains /benefit. When it is a symbiotic relationship, the relationship will be enjoyable. Build in yourself the characteristics you want in your spouse and stop looking for someone you will be a burden to.
clip 13 Scientific Signs that You're in Love
February 05, 2019, 12:58:29 PM by Isaac Adeniran
13 Scientific Signs that  You're in Love

Can't get that girl or guy out of your head? Daydreaming about the person when you should be working? Imagining your futures together? These dizzying thoughts may be signs of love.



In fact, scientists have pinned down exactly what it means to "fall in love." Researchers have found that an in-love brain looks very different from one experiencing mere lust, and it's also unlike a brain of someone in a long-term, committed relationship. Studies led by Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University and one of the leading experts on the biological basis of love, have revealed that the brain's "in love" phase is a unique and well-defined period of time, and there are 13 telltale signs that you're in it.



clip Why Sexual attraction is confusing, maddening and euphoric
February 05, 2019, 12:34:10 PM by Isaac Adeniran
Why Sexual attraction is confusing, maddening and euphoric



Sexual attraction is confusing, maddening, euphoric, even dangerous.
It drives people to extreme behavior, even unspeakable crimes.
The beating pulse, the sweating palms, the rise of chemicals in the brain are the symptoms of a much deeper, more mysterious affliction.
The mechanism that chooses and controls the objects of sexual desire can only be found in the heart of the unexplained.)
Lonely sun, enough of lies
Sleeping naked in the night
Got to take it off my mind
Old enough to make you mine
I believe in human lies
Got to take if off my mind, off my mind...
And now you've got me here, aware
I see through the innocence
I know the way is getting hard
But it's sold away for losing crib
Music keeps me spirited
But nothing can compare the way
You know, you got me with the love and feeling
I know, my body cares only what to say
You know, you got me with the love and feeling
I know, my body cares only what to say
clip SEX AND FEELINGS.
February 05, 2019, 11:33:51 AM by Sofelamaria
SEX AND FEELINGS.

A man can have sex with a lady and still don't have any feelings for her, men only need space to have sex but women need reason to have sex.


A woman cannot have sex without feelings except sex workers. A man can travel for eight hours 'just to have sex with a female friend and yet, not love her. Sex makes men act as if they are in love while they are not. The eight hours travel sacrifice, gifts bought, hotel paid for and other expenses may seem to be coming from true love but they were all in the sacrifice for sex and nothing more.

The foolish thing is this, the majority of women would jump up inside them and conclude that this is the art of true love.
Sex is not an act of commitment. Men still leave the women they sleep with on bed and start thinking of the next woman to sleep with. The satisfaction that comes from sex dies in minutes. It is in the nature of Lions to go miles to hunt. The same with men. A man who can afford the expenses of flying from the UK to Nigeria for sex would do it as if he would never turn to another woman for sex.


clip You Shouldn't Stay in an Unhappy Relationship.
January 27, 2019, 02:06:13 PM by Isaac Adeniran
You Shouldn't Stay in an Unhappy Relationship.

Science Shows Why Not
Settling for someone you don't truly love is almost never the right answer.
By Minda ZetlinCo-author, The Geek [email protected]

CREDIT: Getty Images

If you're in a relationship, are you in love with your partner? Does he or she make you happy? If you answered yes to both questions, you're fortunate indeed. But if you answered no to either one, there's growing scientific evidence that staying in the relationship is the wrong decision--for you, for your partner, and even for your children, if any. 

In a recent Psychology Today blog post, Juliana Breines, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Rhode Island, shoots holes in one of the biggest fallacies that keeps people in bad relationships: The idea that being single will make us more unhappy or less worthy. Both ideas have been disproved by recent research.


One set of studies showed that people who fear being single are likelier to settle for partners who may not make them happy, and also likelier to pursue or accept relationships in the first place where there are clear signs of trouble ahead--for example, with someone who writes in his or her dating profile, "I love what I do, so I need someone who respects that and is willing to take the back seat when necessary." While this may be true at times for many ambitious people and especially for entrepreneurs, when a prospective partner writes something like this in a dating profile, it's a clear red flag.

If you're committed to your career and your company, there will likely be times when you pay less attention to your relationship--for example while trying to close a big deal or get a new company off the ground. There will likely be other times when you prioritize your relationship, for example when you're getting married or if your partner is ill. Most potential mates understand this. So if you were writing your own dating profile you might mention your work and how much it means to you, but you probably wouldn't warn a potential mate about having to "take the back seat." Someone who goes out of their way to say something like this before you've even met is probably warning you that they'll be emotionally unavailable most of the time.

Researchers also found that participants who pursued or stayed in unsatisfying relationships out of fear of being single were wasting their time and effort because they were just as unhappy--and just as lonely--as their single counterparts. A second reason people stay when they want to leave may be social or familial pressure. As Breines notes, "singlism"--the idea that single people are less worthy or more selfish than married ones--is pervasive throughout society. Singlism can be truly pernicious in traditional cultures or religious communities where marriage and procreation are seen as a universal duty. But again, research disproves the idea that single people are more selfish. In fact, studies show that single people are more willing to help parents and others who need assistance than partnered ones are.

For the kids?
If being in an unsatisfying relationship won't make you happier than being single, and if the social stigma against single-hood is as invalid as many other social stigmas, then why would you stay in a relationship that doesn't make you happy? There's a third motivation that keeps many parents trapped in bad relationships--they don't want to traumatize their children by splitting up. But again, the research suggests that "staying together for the kids" is likely the wrong decision. In a U.K. poll, 514 young people, ages 14 to 22 were surveyed about their parents' breakup and its aftermath. Eighty-two percent said they were better off with their parents apart than if they had stayed together in an unhappy marriage. The findings seem to suggest that seeing one's parents in constant conflict is more traumatic for children than seeing them split up.

Even parents who make sure not to argue in front of the kids probably aren't doing those kids any favors by staying together if they're unhappy. It's notoriously difficult to fool the children in your household into thinking you're happy in your marriage when you're not. And when children grow up they tend to emulate what their parents did. So if your children saw you stay in an unhappy relationship, chances are that's what they'll do, too. They may set that same example for their own children as well. Which means that by staying when you want to leave, you could be creating a legacy of misery in bad relationships that endures through several generations.

These days, separating parents are increasingly trying out novel solutions for ending their romantic relationships while maintaining stability for the kids. In a "parenting marriage," parents morph from a couple into best friends/roommates/co-parents, continuing to share their home with their children while acknowledging each other's independence to pursue their own lives, including dating other people.

Obviously, that's not for everyone, but there are a wide variety of options that keep kids connected to both parents without forcing those parents to stay in an unhappy relationship. I experienced this myself. When my mother left my father, she moved only four blocks away so that I could easily go back and forth between their two homes. They coordinated on everything and frequently had dinner together with me. Sometimes we even went on family vacations together. Another couple I know split up a few years ago but they are coaching their very athletic children together on their various sports teams.

There's no one right answer to how to dissolve an unsatisfying relationship, especially when there are children involved. But there is one right answer to the question of whether or not you should. If you've tried your best and you know things won't get better, then move on. You'll be better off on your own. And you'll be giving yourself the chance to find someone new.

xx MARRIAGE IS HARD WORK
January 27, 2019, 10:46:55 AM by Isaac Adeniran
MARRIAGE IS HARD WORK
By: Dr. Olukoya

Many years ago, I used to interpret the saying Marriage is not for small boys to mean small boys in terms of age, until I visited a female mentor that has been in marriage for 47 years.
I asked, so what is the secret of your over 47 years in marriage?
Beaming, she retorted; My son, The Expectations you bring into marriage will either Spell its Doom or Success. I married my husband without expectations of enjoying his money or buying cars for me, but with time, my patience, hard work and God-fearing attitude yielded results of getting cars, houses, taking care of our children and all that.
You see, if a married lady keeps on nagging in the house, she pushes the spirit of her husband from the home. If you make the man unhappy, you make the house uncomfortable.
So, I married without High Expectations from my husband but simply to make him Happy always.
Yes, for the past 47 years, I would be the first to get up from bed and the last to go back to bed. I bath the kids, do devotions with them, prepare breakfast for my husband and boil hot water for him to bath. I iron his clothes he would take to work, kiss him and wish him the best in his daily endeavours.
I asked my old woman, so then what does the man do in return? She laughed all heart and hearty and replied; You see, this is the mistake you young ones make in marriage.
*YOU DO SOMETHING FOR YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE AND EXPECT SAME REWARD FROM HIM OR HER, THIS IS WRONG !!*
When it becomes your attitude to only please your husband or wife always, the other person responds naturally. Indeed, if nothing touches the palm tree, it doesn't rattle.
She continued, my son, *Never Carry "How Rich or Poor your Family is" into Marriage.* After all, you knew very well the status of your family and decided to marry that man or woman.
Love only Compels/Leads would-be couples into Marriage but it Doesn't Sustain marriage. Rather, understanding, patience, communication and most importantly, forgiveness sustain every marriage. High expectations are the symptoms of divorce in marriages.
Sometimes you hear, I want to marry a mother, a business partner, God fearing person etc. You cannot get all your expectations in one person. With time and depending on your relationship, you may get some. *So Minimise your Expectations in Marriage.
To cut the long story short, as too many cooks spoil the broth, she concluded on the mistakes a couple should resist at all cost in marriage:
1) Never say you have made your wife or husband somebody from a nobody. It hurts. God only used you as an agent for transformation, give the glory to God.*
2) Let the man be head of the home no matter the financial,* *economic,*
*physical and emotional health situation prevailing in the couple's life whilst the woman exercises diligence in the use of the tongue.*
3) Having children should not be the ultimate objective in marriage. They are given to enhance your marriage. When God delays in giving you a child, have every reason to live a happy marital life.*
4) Sex is a major morale booster after a hard day's stressful life. Try to be sexual beings and not "Angels" in that marriage.*
5) Resort to God often and less to men to solve your marital disputes.*
6) Let the women " Make up" their characters much more than they make up their body.
Indeed, marriage is not for small boys because small boys struggle to forgive, demand everything speedily, lack the patience to wait, have so many friends etc.
Make every effort to let that marriage work and may God help us !!!
Kindly Share to Bless Others and bless marriages !!!

xx How To Live In A Loving Relationship With Your Wife
January 26, 2019, 01:06:49 PM by Isaac Adeniran
Tis is for a big laugh, and sober reflection. Laugh away your wrinkle

A group of Nigerian husbands gathered at a Conference on, "How To Live In A Loving Relationship With Your Wife".

The men were asked:

"How many of you love your wife?"

All the men raised their hands.

Then, they were asked:

"When was the last time you told your wife you loved her?"

Some men answered "today", some, "yesterday", the majority didn’t remember.

The men were then told to take their phones and send the following text to their respective wives:

"I love you, sweetheart".

Then, the men were asked to exchange phones, so that each of them can read the other wife's response to the love message..

Here are the replies from 15 of them:

1. *Have you impregnated someone again*?

2. *That was then, not now*!

3. *You wan borrow money, abi?*

4. *What did you do again? I won’t forgive you this time!*

5. *Meaning?*

6. *Is that a new song?*

7. *Am I dreaming?*

8. *If you don’t tell me who this message is actually for, you will die today!*

9. *You this man, I asked you to stop drinking!*

10. *Abeg, na who be dis?*

11. *When did this one start?*

12. *Pls u sent the sms to a wrong number.*

13. *Who give monkey banana?*

14. *Who taught you this?*

15. *Pls, am not in the mood!*

Today is *World Happy Day.* Please, send to your Contacts to make them *Happy* and *Laugh*-ooooooo....!!!
clip MEN ONLY: Sex Is Sweet ... But You Should Read This!
January 23, 2019, 05:32:27 AM by Isaac Adeniran
MEN ONLY: Sex Is Sweet ... But You Should Especially Read This!

KINDLY SHARE THIS TO EVERY MAN ON YOUR LIST TO SHARE THIS TOO (A MUST READ)



Most downfalls of men are caused by MULTIPLE girlfriends. Sex is a spiritual encounter I stand to be corrected, not every girl has a good spirit,some are demonic, some have poison in between their legs, some are killers and destiny destroyers, be careful. This is also true of some men!

Worst is a man who can't control his sexual urge. A man who can control his sexual urge is a man who can live many years on earth.

1. Having many girlfriends does not make you a man. It only makes you a womanizer and a cheat and a boy.

2. A real man has only one woman in his life.

3. For the fact that you are good in bed does not make you a man. A real man is the man who does not run away from his responsibility but faces it squarely.

4. You don't need to sag your trousers and walk round the street before girls will love you. Infact it is only small boys that sag trousers and it is premature little girls that fall in love with men who sag trousers.

5. Don't use and dump ladies. Remember the law of karma. Whatever you do, you will receive the reward.

clip Marriage Quotes strictly for men only
January 16, 2019, 10:14:29 AM by Isaac Adeniran
Marriage Quotes strictly for men only



1. When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.
 ~By Lee Majors

2. After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.
 ~By Al Gore

3. By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.
 ~By Socrates

4. Woman inspires us to great things and prevents us from achieving them.
 ~By Mike Tyson

5. The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What does a woman want?
 ~By George Clooney

6. I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.
 ~By Bill Clinton

7. "Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes on Tuesdays, I go on Fridays."
 ~By George W. Bush

8. "I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years."
 ~By Rudy Giuliani

9. "There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage."
 ~By Michael Jordan

10. "I've had bad luck with all my wives. The first one left me and the second one didn’t.” The third gave me more children!
 ~By Donald Trump

11. Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming
 1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it,
 2. Whenever you're right, shut up.
 ~By Shaquille O’Neal

12. The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once...
 ~By Kobe Bryant

13. You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to.
 ~By David Hasselhoff

14. My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
 ~By Alec Baldwin

15. A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
 ~By Barack Obama

16. Marriage is the only war where one sleeps with the enemy.
 ~By Tommy Lee

17. A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: "Wife wanted". Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: "You can have mine."
 ~By Brad Pitt

18. First Guy (proudly): "My wife's an angel!"
 Second Guy : "You're lucky, mine's still alive."
 ~ By Jimmy Kimmel

19. “Honey, what happened to ‘ladies first’?” Husband replies, “That’s the reason why the world’s a mess today, because a lady went first!”
~By David Letterman

20. “First there’s the promise ring, then the engagement ring, then the wedding ring...soon after....comes SuffeRing!
 ~By Jay Leno

21. "The reason why wives live longer is because they don't have a Wife"
 ~By Brandon Breezy

Forward this to all the guys to give them a good laugh .......and to the ladies with good sense of humour who can handle it!!!!!!!😀😀😀

Which ones do you like most?


Marriage Quotes strictly for men only
clip Why Love is a choice
December 29, 2018, 06:02:53 AM by Isaac Adeniran
Why Love is a choice



A lot of times youths nowadays mistake feelings for love. This has led to a lot of break ups and divorces in marriage. Most times we have butterflies in our stomach and we can't sleep if we do not speak with our partners, we believe we are already in love. For most youths, love is seen as a feeling that one has towards his or her partner.

To other people, love is emotion and this mindset has created relationship problems for them.
A lot of couples complain that their spouses have changed immediately they got married. Some even say you are not the person I use to know. Some even complain after few months of meeting their partners that the feeling is gone.

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