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Marriage and Marrying More Wives*
*MARIAGE FALLACY*
--- by Tola Adeniyi
If we Christians keep insisting on this fallacy called
One-man/One-wife, too many ladies will end up
sleeping with different married men secretly while
trying to make money and waiting for their own
husband. Too many ladies will remain in their parents
house till their 30s and some will live alone till their
40s. Most women who lose their husbands in their 40s
and 50s will never find another man to marry them
legitimately, they will end up sleeping around with
different men.
GET IT RIGHT: Men and women are not equal and God
never made us to be equal. Lets stop adopting all
these American law that force Christian men to
marry only one wife, while leaving several Christian
ladies without husband, leading to many of them
doing "bad things" in secret.


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They wore forlorn mien plastered with furrowed
frowned faces like some one afflicted with putrid
smell of heavy dose of fart. They looked as if they
were mourning a three-year-old boy mistakenly killed
by his own father, or the passing of a poor woman
who has just succumbed to excruciatingly painful
cancer.
They clung to their wives as if they were newly
wedded. I temporarily forgot that I was in a holy
church, the spiritual enclave of Christians. I almost
laughed my head off because I knew each of the
‘holy’ ‘monogamous’ men intimately and by Jove, I
knew of their second, third or fourth wives/liaisons/
mistresses with whom they had sired several children.
To the whole world they were champions of monogamy,
but to their hearts and conscience they were
celebrated polygamists, or at best, serial
monogamists. Pshaw!
I saw pain written all over them, the agony of living a
lie, the unease of hypocrisy, and the shame of going
through life pretending to be what you are not.

The White Men, I am yet to see any human being
whose skin colour is white like that of chalk, came and
told the unfortunate lands they invaded that the
cherished cultures, traditions and religions of such
lands were rubbish, and instead indoctrinated them
with values which they themselves never believed in or
truly practiced. We know of King Henry Vlll, and
several major historical figures in ‘Christian’ Europe
who had more than one wife in addition of a string of
wives who their ‘laws’ forbade them to address as
wives but who nonetheless perform all the functions
of wife minus name.
God bless President Mitterrand who openly confessed
to having two women in his life, with the one in the
other house with whom he fathered an 18-year-old
daughter at the time he passed on.
I have schooled, worked and lived virtually in all the
continents of the world and I make bold to say with
all emphasis at my disposal that no culture on planet
earth truly practices monogamy. My Greek, Italian,
Russian, British, American and other Caucasians
routinely visit their other wives [called by other
names] with whom they have children. But back in the
homes shared with the one carrying the ring, they are
monogamists!

The argument that children in a polygamous house are
always at each other’s throat does not hold water.
Many siblings of monogamous families are known to
have had worse and irresolvable, irreconcilable
squabble, with dirty bitterness over inheritance than
children from different mothers.
The agony suffered by both men and women in the
hand of unnatural laws and doctrines is too stifling
for comfort. In 2002, 502 Reverend mothers were
reported to have died while procuring abortion in
Rome. Nigerian Tribune wrote an editorial on the
unfortunate incident. And stories of Reverend
fathers having children and sodomising young men in
their care are legion! Why the hypocrisy?
Why should the world continue to live the life of
Ostrich?
A well known Nigerian journalist hid his other wives
from his wife because his religion would not permit of
it and his wife, living in monogamy should not hear of
it. At his funeral service, other wives surfaced and
the woman parading the ring collapsed. It was the
grace of God that prevented double interment that
day!
The Western world which had not learnt the art of
living amicably with more than one partner under the
same roof has indulged in multiple serial marriages,
divorcing innocent wives under flimsy excuses so that
another woman can move in should not be measure of
standard for the world. Thank God Hillary Clinton in
the US and Mrs Cook in England were very much
wiser. They refused to allow "some indiscretion" on
the part of their husbands to ruin their marriages.