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xx I didn't buy my Ph.D in Psychology
Yesterday at 08:03:04 AM by Isaac Adeniran
A Professor started his class on a very serious Topic. The moment he turned towards the blackboard, one of the students whistled.

He turned, looked at the class and asked the Whistler's name. No one answered.

The Professor peacefully kept the Pen in his pocket saying: "Lecture ends here. I'll tell you a story to utilise the remaining time".
Everyone became interested.

"Yesterday night I tried hard to sleep, but it was miles away from my eyes, so I thought I'd better get petrol in my car, which will save my time next morning and might induce sleep.

After having my tank full, I started roaming in that area, enjoying the
peace of a traffic free ride.

Suddenly, on the corner I saw a girl who was as young and beautiful as the clothes she was wearing. Must have been returning from a party.
 
Out of courtesy, I turned my car towards her and asked if I may be of any help. She asked me if I could
drop her to her home, she'll be very obliged, to which I agreed.

She sat in the front seat with me. We started talking, and to my amazement she was very intelligent, had control on many topics which many youngsters don't.

When we reached her address, she admitted my courteous nature and behavior and accepted that she had fallen in love with me.

I also admitted her intelligence and beauty and that I've also started liking her. I told her about my job
as a professor in the university.

The girl asked my number, which I gave her willingly. Then she asked me a favor, to which i couldn't have denied naturally.

She said that her brother is a student in the same university, and asked me to take care of him, since we'll be in a long relationship now.

I asked the name of the student. She said that I'll recognise him with one of his very prominent quality, He whistles a lot!

All eyes in the classroom turned towards the boy who had whistled.

The professor said:
"I didn't buy my Ph.D in Psychology...
I earned it.Ē Oya! Come out.
       
               
clip Why Truth is Naked
October 03, 2018, 05:05:31 AM by oneluv
According to a 19th century legend, the Truth and the Lie meet one day. The Lie says to the Truth: "It's a marvellous day today"! The Truth looks up to the skies and sighs, for the day was really beautiful. They spend a lot of time together, ultimately arriving beside a well.



The Lie tells the Truth: "The water is very nice, let's take a bath together!" The Truth, once again suspicious, tests the water and discovers that it indeed is very nice. They undress and start bathing. Suddenly, the Lie comes out of the water, puts on the clothes of the Truth and runs away.

 The furious Truth comes out of the well and runs everywhere to find the Lie and to get her clothes back. The World, seeing the Truth naked, turns its gaze away, with contempt and rage.
The poor Truth returns to the well and disappears forever, hiding therein, its shame. Since then, the Lie travels around the world, dressed as the Truth, satisfying the needs of society, because, the World, in any case, harbours no wish at all to meet the naked Truth.
Jean-Lťon GťrŰme, 1896.
clip Why Greatness in life is not a product of convenience. It takes sacrifice.
August 25, 2018, 02:19:00 PM by Isaac Adeniran
READ THE STORY BELOW:

A wise man once said that the future only belongs to those who have the ability to foresee it and sacrifice the pleasures of the present in order to gain it.
As I read through a financial report that Apple (Company) has entered the trillion dollars realm, I was curious to know more about the company. In my search, I stumbled into a pathetic story concerning one of the co-founders of Apple by name, Ronald Wayne. This man co-founded Apple Computers (now Apple Inc.) with Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak. He drew the first Apple logo, drafted the first original agreement between the founders and wrote the first manual for their first computer. He held a 10% share in the company but soon decided to relinquish it for $800 and was given additional $1500 to forfeit all right of ownership two weeks after the company was officially registered in 1976. His reason for that decision was that the company was financially demanding.




Today, if Ronald Wayne had kept his 10% share, he would have been worth over a 100 billion dollars. That would have made him the richest or second richest man on earth. But the total value of what Ronald Wayne collected in 1976 stands at $ 9,498 in 2017. Today Ronald Wayne is worth $ 300,000 less than the million dollar mark, yet the agreement he drafted was sold for over a million dollars after he left. The first Apple product he ever owned was iPad 2 given to him in 2011.

Ronald Wayne said it was demanding on him financially. If only he saw today, his decision of 1976 would have been so different.

Everything of lasting value is highly demanding. Greatness is not a product of convenience. The greatness of tomorrow begins with the sacrifice of today.
If you need to live in a one room apartment today to own an estate tomorrow do!

If you need to ride a tricycle today in order to distribute a Rolls Royce tomorrow Pls do!
If you need to patronize fairly used clothes today to own a boutique tomorrow Pls do! 

The pain of knowing you had the opportunity at a point in life to change the course of your life is the greatest pain of regret to live with.
Today Ronald Wayne in his right will be said to be financially OK at $300,000 but hearing the news that the company he cofounded is the first company to hit the trillion dollars mark will send many thoughts to his mind. And the children? Had our father....... Only God can describe what will be going on in their minds.
My counsel:
Where you see a future don't fail to invest
Where you see a future don't fail to sacrifice
Where you see a future don't fail to endure.
Where you see a future don't fail to persist
Where you see a future don't fail to believe.

The future truly belongs to those who can foresee it and give all it takes to get there. If you don't remember anything I have said so far, don't ever forget that " Greatness in life is not a product of convenience.Ē It takes sacrifice.

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xx 25 LITTLE STORIES FROM THE UNKNOWN MAN
August 19, 2018, 11:02:39 AM by Isaac Adeniran
25 LITTLE STORIES FROM THE UNKNOWN MAN

1. Once upon a time I met a man who told me that telling the truth and making someone cry, is better than telling a lie and making someone smile and happy.

2. He said to me your true friends are those who will never avoid you just because they have met new friends.

3. As he kept on speaking to me, he said If some people do not appreciate and value my presence, I should work hard to make them value and appreciate my absence.

4. He said I must not be angry with anyone who is quiet on me because there must be a reason why they are quiet, and that I will get to know the reason later.

5. He told me it is always better to be a blessing to others at all times than to be a burden at all times.

6. He said I must learn to forgive others not because they deserve it but because I deserve the peace that comes with forgiveness.

7. I must know that everyone deserves a second chance and many more chances if they ask for forgiveness, but I must not loose my guard over their intentions.

8. I must not only talk to people in my free time, but I must free my time to talk to people.

9. I must know that the truth may hurt for a little while, but a lie will hurt for a long time.

10. I must learn to value and respect people who tell you the Truth no matter how painful the truth is.

11. I must make my decisions when I am in the right mood, not when I am angry, likewise I must not make promises when I am excited with high emotions.

12. I must know that some people are like candles that burn themselves to give light to others. I should not have regrets if I happen to be one of such candles.

13. I must learn to be a caring friend because it is a thousand times better than a careless lover.

14. I should value and protect my relationships of many years of investments because they are like a book that takes years to write but can get burnt only within few seconds.

15. He specifically said this repeatedly that If have a problem with someone, I should go tell the person and not go tell the world.

16. He said to me that I should know that nobody is too busy, it is just a matter of their priorities within a day.

17. He said to me that people can trust you when you are consistent with what you say and what you do.

18. He said with a low voice, only God can be totally trusted. Trust God 100%.

19. He then said no matter what, I must not forget those who helped and stood by me in my time of trials and during my difficult times.

20. I must always remember those who turned their backs on me in my difficult times of trials. Not for vengeance, but for the lesson of life.

21. I must be careful with those who put me into difficult times but I must never hate them. It is a lesson of life.

22. He said again I must be grateful at all times to God for this life and for living. It is a previlege and not a right.

23. As he was leaving me, he said, always remember how temporary this world is, I must always be conscious of the reality of eternity with God in heaven or with Satan in hell fire.

24. He smiled and left waving me for a long time. Who must this man be?

25. What he told me may be useful to you.

 God bless you more as you meditate upon words and share with your friends.

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xx Want to be rich? Remove this from ur house immediately
August 14, 2018, 11:30:47 AM by Isaac Adeniran
Watch "Want to be rich? Remove this from ur house immediately!" on YouTube

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xx Thank God in everything
August 13, 2018, 01:02:27 PM by omonaija
There was a bird who lived in a desert, very sick, no feathers, nothing to eat and drink, no shelter to live in. One day a dove was passing by, so the sick unhappy bird stopped the dove & ask where it was going? The dove replied " I am going to heaven".

So the sick bird said "please find out for me, when my suffering will  come to an end?" The dove said, "sure, I will." and bid a good bye to the sick bird. The dove reached heaven and shared the message of the sick bird with the angel in charge at the entrance gate. The angel said, "For the next seven years of its life the bird has to suffer like this, no happiness till then."

The dove said, "When the sick bird hears this he will be disheartened. could you suggest any solution to this."

The Angel replied, "Tell it to say this: "Thank you God for everything." The dove on meeting the sick bird again,  delivered the message of the angel to it .

After seven days the dove was passing there again, and saw that the sick  bird was very happy, feathers grew on its body, a small plant grew up in the desert area, a small pond of water was also there, the bird was singing and dancing cheerfully. The dove was astonished. The Angel had said that there would be no happiness for the bird for the next seven years. With this question in its mind, the dove went back to visit the angel at heaven's gate.

The dove put forth his question to the Angel. The Angel replied, "yes it is true there shouldn't have been any happiness for the bird for seven years but because the bird was saying "THANK YOU GOD FOR EVERYTHING"  every bad situations in its life changed.

When the bird fell down on the hot sand it said "THANK YOU GOD FOR EVERYTHING"

When it could not fly it said, "THANK YOU GOD FOR EVERYTHING"

When it was thirsty and there was no water around, it said, "THANK YOU GOD FOR EVERYTHING"

Whatever the situation, the bird kept on repeating, "THANK YOU GOD FOR EVERYTHING"  therefore the seven years got dissolved in seven days.

When I heard this story, I felt a tremendous shift in my way of feeling, thinking, accepting and viewing life.

I adopted this confession in my life. WHATEVER the situation I faced I started saying "THANK YOU GOD". It helps me to shift my view from what I did not have to what I have in my life.

For instance; if my head pains I THANK GOD and I notice that the headache does not bother me anymore.

In the same manner I started using this confession in my relationships (whether family, friends, neighbours, colleagues ) finances, social life, business and everything with which I can relate. I shared this story with everyone I came in touch with and it brought a great shift in their behaviour too.

This simple confession really had a deep impact on my life, I started feeling how blessed I am, how happy I am, how good life is.

The purpose of sharing this message is to make all of us aware of how powerful the attitude of gratitude is. It can reshape our lives.
 Lets confess this continuously to experience the shift in our life.

Be grateful and  see the change in your attitude.

Be humble and you will never stumble. God bless you are you read.
clip Delay of gratification leads to success
August 02, 2018, 01:57:18 PM by Isaac Adeniran
Delay of gratification.



 Delay of gratification, the act of resisting an impulse to take an immediately available reward in the hope of obtaining a more-valued reward in the future. The ability to delay gratification is essential to self-regulation, or self-control.

The reason for success to elude so many people is simply because they could not delay gratification.
Most people have delay gratication as a result of fear of unknown and fear of success.
Can I use this money to show off or to invest. what of if the business does not success.
Well let me use my money to enjoy myself and see what i have used my money for
clip How to control anger and DEFLATE EGO
July 15, 2018, 12:19:13 AM by Isaac Adeniran


"Croatia came to this World Cup with only two natural strikers. Mario Mandzukic, the guy who scored the winner in d match against England.

The other was Nikola Kalinic  He was on the bench for Croatia's first game against Nigeria. With five munites to end that game, coach instructed him to dress up and replace another player.

Kalinic angrily refused to play, in protest of being left on the bench.

He saw himself a top player, and wouldn't come on for just five munites. The coach turned to other player Pjaca for the substitution.

After the match, Kalinic refused to apologize, despite appeals from other coaching staff.

The coach then sacked him from the team, and sent him home from Russia. Kalinic flew for holidays, and even posted pictures of himself enjoying elsewhere.

After all, he seem to imagine, Croatia won't go anywhere in the tournament. But without him, the team managed to win their matches.

Croatia has achieved their greatest football achievement in history, reaching the World Cup final.



The remaining 22 players are national heroes. Their names forever inscribed in the hearts of generations.

Kalinic should have been  part but minus him. All because of minutes of anger. Minutes of pride and bloated ego.

He may have regretted now. He may have realized his tomfoolery. But it is too late. These stories about life are quite familiar to us, but do we really learn lessons from them? As they profoundly apply to all spheres of life?

Learn to CUT PRIDE. Learn to control anger and DEFLATE EGO and  ultimately, learn to say SORRY.

Years of SWEAT & DEDICATION can all be shattered by moments of ANGER and PRIDE.
DON'T BE A KALINIC"
clip 5 Practices That Helped Me Stop Being a People Pleaser
July 01, 2018, 12:53:39 AM by Isaac Adeniran
5 Practices That Helped Me Stop Being a People Pleaser
By Sara Fabian



ďIf you spend your life pleasing others, you spend your life.Ē ~Cheryl Richardson

Looking back on my life, I came to realize that I spent quite a high amount of my precious time trying. Trying to be perfect. Trying to be appreciated and liked by everyone else around me. Trying to fit in with different groups of people so that I could feel accepted and approved of.

I can recall many situations in my life when I did things I didnít really want to do to comfort or please others. I was a master of people pleasing and, to be honest, it wasnít always because I wanted to make everyone happy.

The truth is that I wanted people to like me. I expected them to give me the things I wasnít giving myself: love, care, and attention.

People-pleasing is an unhealthy behavior, a clear sign of low self-esteem. It is disempowering, inauthentic, and extremely time- and energy-consuming.

Here are five simple practices that helped me stop being a people pleaser.

1. Allow myself to be me.

I can recall I once told a guy I was dating that I wanted to join him for a football match when, in fact, I didnít. I knew he loved football, so I thought he would see me as a right partner and like me more. Big mistake.

If youíre also doing things you donít want to do, hoping those things will strengthen your relationships, be careful with that. Be honest about what you like or dislike. Be real. Pretending and faking who you are and what you want will only work against you.

Being myself got me married. The day I had the first dinner with my husband (as friends at that time), I had no expectations of getting involved in a romantic relationship. I didnít care if he liked me, I didnít try to please him in any way because, to me, he was just a friend, not ďa marriage prospect.Ē No lies, no mask, no hidden agenda.

He got to meet the honest, real me, and this was whom he eventually fell in love with. Authenticity is magnetic! Being genuine is a matter of choice, so I stopped explaining myself for what I want and for who I am.

If you also feel like wearing a mask when among people, I want you to know it is okay to be you. Your perfect imperfections make you special and unique.

Be your own kind of beauty. Stay true to your feelings, opinions, thoughts, and emotions. Live your own life, with no apologies and no regrets.

ďAuthenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think weíre supposed to be and embracing who we are.Ē ~ Brene Brown

2. Detach from other peopleís opinion of me.

Did you know that the fear of public speaking comes first among all kinds of fears? Even the fear of death comes second! Most people donít feel brave enough to show up in their vulnerability in front of others because theyíre focusing more on what people might think about them than on the message they want to convey. I was there in the past, and whenever I had to hold a speech at work, it felt like torture.

Seeking validation from others turns us into their prisoners. In reality, we canít control what other people feel or think, but we are in charge of our own actions, feelings, and thoughts.

When I know that what other people think of me does not define me, I set myself free from any judgment. What they see in me is their opinion. Some might perceive me as smart, funny, and talented. Others might think Iím an average public speaker or even a lousy one. To some, I might look pretty. To others, I might not. Itís all about their standards of beauty or intelligence, and it has nothing to do with me.

I do the best I know and the best I can every day. I love and approve of myself as I am, and other peopleís opinion or validation of me is neither required nor needed.

If this rings a bell with you, please know you cannot please everyone, no matter how much you might try. Other peopleís opinions of you are nothing but perception, filtered through their own lenses, expectations, or system of belief. Know you are worthy and beautiful, not because others think so, but because you decide to believe it.

ďWhen I seek your approval, I donít approve of the me thatís seeking the approval.Ē ~ Byron Katie

3. Set healthy boundaries with the outer world.

One of the most challenging things I had to learn was how to say no to things I didnít really want to do, without feeling selfish, guilty, or overly worried that I might hurt or upset someone else. I struggled with this in my personal relationships (like when I saw a movie in town on a Sunday because a good friend had asked, even though my body only wanted to sleep and recharge), but not only in this area of my life.

This was a challenge at work, as well, whether I was saying yes to tasks that were not part of my job profile or volunteering to take on new projects when I already had a lot on my plate. But one day, I decided to speak up for myself and see what happened. Surprisingly, everything was just fine when I started telling people what I needed.

To me, setting healthy boundaries was a learned practice, and hereís where I am today:

Saying no doesnít mean I dislike or reject the other person. I say yes to the person and no to the task. In reality, I know I canít disappoint anyone. People disappoint themselves with the expectations they set for whom they want me to be and what they expect me to do. Itís always their story. If they truly love me, they would understand.

We teach people how to treat us by deciding what we will and wonít accept. I ceased letting anyone take advantage of me. I am not a doormat. It is not my responsibility to entertain other people and make them happy. Whenever I offer people time, I give them a piece of my life.

Today, I spend my precious time with people who bring the best in me, who support me and accept me just the way I am. Relationships in which we need to pretend are toxic. If I donít feel at ease with people, I donít change myself; I change the people.

Setting boundaries in a relationship might look selfish to the outer world. In reality, it is a form of self-respect, self-love, and self-care.

ďNo one can make you feel you feel inferior without your consent.Ē ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

4. Assertive communication.

Often cases, I found it extremely difficult to say no only because because I didnít know how to express myself with clarity and confidence, fearing I could sound aggressive or impolite. I learned to say no with grace, without offending anyone.

Here are some simple formulas that always work well for me:

    It doesnít work for me right now.
    Iím not able to make it this Sunday/this week/month/year.
    Iíve got too much on my plate right now.
    Thank you for thinking of me, Iím sorry I canít at this time.
    Itís too bad Iím busy, but please let me know how it turns out.
    Perhaps another time, let me know what next week looks like for you.
    No thank you, but it sounds lovely.

ďWhen you say Yes to others, make sure you are not saying No to yourself.Ē ~ Paulo Coelho
5. Become my own best friend.

For my happiness, Iím in charge. I stopped expecting others to make me happy and to fulfill my needs and desires.

Iíve made myself a priority in my own life. I engage in activities that bring me joy. I do more things for my heart and soul. This way, I create happiness from the inside out instead of chasing it through other people.

It is not my husbandís responsibility to make me feel valued, cherished, loved, whole, and complete; itís mine.

Loving ourselves as a wholeómind, body, and soulóis not selfish; it is necessary. Being loved is a human need. However, being needy is something different. I came to understand that people who are taking good care of themselves are less dependent on the approval of others.

I pay attention to my self-talk. I eliminated disempowering words or thoughts from my repertoire: ďI am stupid,Ē ďI am too fat,Ē ďIím a failure,Ē ďIím not good enough.Ē

I treat myself with dignity and respect. I talk to myself kindly. I donít call myself names and I acknowledge myself for my achievements, for my willingness to learn and grow. This way, my cup of self-love is always full, and external praise comes as a bonus.

I practice the art of embracing praise. I take compliments gracefully instead of putting myself down, as if Iím unworthy of such a celebration. I enjoy when people compliment me but I am not dependent on them to feel good about myself.

ďItís not your job to like me; itís mine.Ē ~ Byron Katie

Once I decided to embrace myself with love and compassion, being alone didnít feel scary or hard, and I started to enjoy my own company.

Just think from this perspective: Out of everyone you know in the world, the only person that is always present in your life, non-negotiable, day and night, is you. So if you don't like being all by yourself, at least from time to time, you might need to work on the most important relationship you'll ever get in life: the one with yourself.

To some people, the need to be alone could also be a personality issue, as introverted persons want to charge their batteries from the inside out and don't always need to be surrounded by people. Meanwhile, I have met very extroverted people who suddenly didn't need to spend so much of their time with others and started focusing more on themselves.

Being liked and included and feeling a sense of belonging to a community are basic human needs. As defined by Descartes, humans are ďsocial animals.Ē However, many people use others as a diverting tool that helps them run from themselves.

I've been there as well in the pastóspending time with others to feel seen or included, or keeping the TV switched on all day long in my home, even if I wasn't watching. In reality, I was using that noise to run from my own thoughts and emotions.

When we have a harmonic relationship with ourselves, we no longer look to other people to fill holes in our self-esteem. We need people but we aren't emotionally needy. There's a big difference between the two.

ďYou can never feel lonely when you like the person youíre alone with.ď ~Wayne Dyer
clip Be careful who you associate with
June 03, 2018, 10:08:32 AM by Isaac Adeniran
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